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It should be obvious that there are basic differences between being in love or just obsessed. Sadly, that’s not always the case. Many people find themselves in relationships that they feel are loving when, in reality, it’s an unhealthy obsession. Even when these people are faced with the facts, they often refuse to admit that they’re more obsessed than in love. In fact, you may be one of those women who is obsessed than in love. So if you haven’t gone completely round the bend, following are some signs that you may be obsessed rather than in love:
You flake on responsibilities because of a chance that you’ll have of running into the object of your obsession. This includes missing work, school or other important appointments because he said he MIGHT call you, or there’s the off chance that if you stay in a certain location long enough, he’ll come in. If you’re blowing off commitments just on the chance that you’ll run into this guy, you should consider yourself to be in serious trouble. When you miss commitments just because of your obsession, you’re only going to be sorry later in life when you don’t even remember this guy’s name.
You miss out on things that you love doing just so that you can be available in case the guy you’re obsessed with decides he has time to call you or wants to see you. What you’re actually doing is putting your life on hold for another person. Now, this may be fine if you’re in a serious relationship or are married, but when this person has done nothing to show you that you mean much to him, it makes no sense for you to rearrange your life for him. You’re only missing out on a lot of fun by doing so.
Your friendships are taking a back seat to your obsession. When you’re obsessed with a guy you’re dating or one that you WANT to date, you’ll tend to ignore your friends in favor of being available for this guy even when he hasn’t called or made plans with you. Eventually, you’ll start driving your friends away from you because they understand that you don’t care much about them now.
If you notice any of these signs within yourself, please take note how far you’ve fallen down the Rabbit Hole. None of these things are even remotely normal. You’re not meant to stop living your life just in CASE some guy decides to give you a call or suddenly shows up to take you to dinner. If it’s necessary for you to always be available on the off chance that he’ll call or come by, then it’s imperative that you get some help in overcoming your obsession. This is something that could ruin your entire life if you allow it. That’s why you need to do everything possible to move past this obsession and involve yourself in a healthy relationship with someone that wants to be with you.
With the approach of that all-important wedding month of June, more and more couples start to contemplate the thought of marriage. This is something that seems to affect more women than men because weddings are events that they love preparing for as well as having all of the attention turned onto them for just that one day. The problem is that too many couples spend so much time planning the wedding that they kind of miss the fact that there’s a marriage to follow.
Other couples may not be sure whether or not that they’re ready to make that trip down the aisle. If you fall into that group, whatever else you may do, you should not get married! While there may be a certain amount of nervousness surrounding a wedding, there should never be abject terror at the thought of becoming legally bound to another person. If you’re straddling that fence, though, and just aren’t sure whether or not you’re ready to get married, there are some questions you can ask yourself that will help you decide if should start making wedding plans or take a step back and re-evaluate your relationship.
First of all, you need to figure out how you feel about living with someone else day in and day out, having to answer to someone else and running things by them before making any decisions. If you’re already living with your intended and it doesn’t bother you, then this is probably not an issue. On the other hand, if you are still maintaining separate residences because you’ve been hesitant to give up all of your freedom and tend to be attached to “your space,” you probably don’t want to commit to living with someone all the time.
Making your own decisions without consulting someone else may be something that you’ve always done. When you get married, you must consider that any decision you may make will affect one other person besides yourself. That just might not be something you’re up for giving in to.
Now, on the other hand, if you adore living with your significant other and love coming home to him every day, chances are good that you’re ready to make that commitment. This is also true of including someone else in your decision making. If you’re already living together and talking over things before decisions are made, you’re probably more than ready to walk down the aisle and make some serious vows to each other.
Simply put, if you love being together to the point that you cannot imagine going through an entire day without seeing each other, then you’re certainly ready for something quite serious. In addition, if the two of you are already making plans together, that’s also a great sign. When you both get excited when talking about a future together while being equally involved in wedding plans, it’s time to turn those plans into something much more permanent.
The Big Day will dawn bright and beautiful when you’re both ready to say “I do,” whether it’s cloudy, raining, snowing, or sunny.
Now to the topic of the day “Online Business “.
My name is Ardarrh. I am a writer, blogger and an entrepreneur. I am going to deviate a bit from this topic.
Having a supportive partner is a wonderful thing, but you cannot live your life waiting for that to be the case before you believe in yourself enough to ‘go for it’ in your career.
A man is not a financial plan
There are many ways in which women discover the need to become financially independent. Whether it is a relationship breakdown or another life-changing situation, waiting for a partner to make you financially secure is a dangerous situation to be in. The only way to be financially secure is to be in control of your own finances. You may need to seek expert advice from a professional or your personal accountant. But the prime strategy is: start now. You don’t need lots of money to be savvy about your finances and to become financially independent. And the sooner you start, the sooner you’ll get there
Know what makes you happy
If you are constantly looking for friends, family or a partner to bring you a level of happiness, then you are not independent. List the activities that you enjoy the most (alone) and make sure you do one each day. These are things that feed and nourish your brain, creativity and energy.
Enjoy your own company
This may sound strange at first, but unless you are completely content on your own for extended periods of time then you aren’t emotionally independent of others. This also includes social media. Being alone but chatting non-stop with people online is not a sign of contentment. Or independence.
Learn to say no without guilt
To be independent means to have your own goals and your own focus. This means you will need to say no to anything or anyone that distracts you from such goals. If you are in a relationship, you still need to have your own goals and ensure you are making the right choices in life to reach them.
Confidence in your own decisions
Being an ‘independent woman’ means being confident in the decisions you make at work, in your business and in your life, even if everyone else is telling you to do otherwise. Not relying on the approval of others is not only freeing, it cements your independence.
So… go for it.
There are so many opportunities out there just waiting for you to explore. So many people come to me asking I teach them “online business .”
When I graduated from the University I scouted for job and even the ones (jobs) available were offering peanuts but guess what?? I NEVER GAVE UP
Presently I work from home. I am a content writer, editor, blogger and even entrepreneur all in one.
Most people have the ability to offer some kind of service or product online. If someone is looking for what you do and it’s something they can’t do or don’t have the time for, they will pay you to do it.
But you don’t want to put all your eggs in one basket. Demand for skills change, and that’s why it’s necessary to make sure you can offer multiple sets of skills. For this, you need to keep updating your skills.
Even when you outsource services to clients, you want to have knowledge of the basics on whatever you are offering. You never know if an outsourcer fails to complete a task or does it incorrectly. You may not have the time to have them correct it due to deadline pressures.
It’s during these times that knowing about what you are offering can help you to step in and finish the job. You want to avoid missing deadlines as much as possible. That is a difficult situation to reverse.
Of course, having dependable resources in the first place will limit this situation from arising. When considering outsourcers, have them do some jobs that are exclusively for you, in the beginning, to see how they per-form.
Again, having a grasp on the basics of the task they perform will help you evaluate their skills. Once you are confident of their abilities, you can use those resources to perform work for your clients.
Take for instance writing is my hubby. Someone out there is looking for a writer. Probably because they don’t know or don’t have time to write I ll be paid for writing for that person.
Another instance, cooking is your hubby you can just go online advertise it and someone who doesn’t know how to OR don’t have that time can contact you. You cook and get paid.
Hope I am COMMUNICATING?
A good friend is always going to be supportive of your relationship and be there for you when things don’t follow through the way you want them to. On the other hand, sometimes a friend acts a little peculiar, or is there for your partner in times of need more than they are for you. There are a few ways to tell if your friend is trying to steal away your significant other, if you suspect they may be pining for their affection. Better yet, there are always ways to thwart their progress and remind them of who is dating who.
One way to tell what their intentions are is to, first and foremost, listen to your partner. If your partner loves and trusts you, then they will likely report back to you of any questionable things done or said by your friend. Feel free to approach the issue with both parties in a diplomatic and mature manner. It never hurts to try and talk things out before jumping to any wild assumptions or letting things fester quietly.
It may not exactly be flirtations, either, that your friend throws toward your partner. Sometimes, it’s a little more subtle. There are certain things to look for, if you suspect your friend may be interested. For instance, does your friend always want to talk about them? Does your friend give you questionable advice for your relationship that may later backfire? Does your friend seem to side more often than not with your significant other when an argument arises between the two of you? And is your friend there at the weak points of your union to help your partner rather than you? Or perhaps they say they’re helping your partner for you.
Either way, whether subtle or direct, if you sense their motives are to try and injure your relationship for their own personal gain, the best thing you can do is talk to them about it. Depending on the compatibility of personalities and attitudes, you may be able to grab your partner and friend and talk to them together in a three-way conversation. If you talk things out, but the behavior still continues, you may want to consider distancing yourself and your lover from that not-so-great friend. Give things some time to boil over during that period and see how things go on down the line.
If you find that your friend continues to disrespect you, or that their previous behavior has worsened, then it may be time to just ignore that friend permanently. Some people just don’t learn, and sometimes they just never will. No good would come out keeping negative energy around you and your relationship. Be aware that all a friend like that does is wish for you to fail so they can reap the rewards of their long-term discouragement. The bottom line is that regardless of who that friend may have been before, they are no longer a friend to you.
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It is nearly impossible for love to without trust. If one person within the relationship constantly feels as though the other is sneaking around or hiding secrets, or perhaps has even been caught being unfaithful, this can damage the trust in a relationship.
Mutual trust can be a strong basis for a healthy relationship. When that trust is breached, not only does one partner feel betrayed, disappointed and cheated, but the other partner can often feel enormous guilt.
These negative emotions can lead to other problems within the relationship, including communication problems and insecurity.
Building and earning another person’s trust and respect takes time, especially after catching your partner out on something major, like an affair or a significant lie. Only you can know whether you’re prepared to forgive a major breach in trust.
If you do decide to work on mending the relationship you should also be prepared not to throw the indiscretion back in the other person’s face at every opportunity. When you’ve told your partner you’re willing to forgive what’s happened, but then immediately make them feel bad for it all over again at every opportunity, you’re holding a grudge, which can break down any work you’ve done towards trying to fix your relationship.
Mending the Misunderstanding
If the trust in your relationship has been destroyed, trying to cling to your partner or not let them out of your sight is not going to make things better. You’ll end up smothering the other person and making them feel suffocated. Your own fears about them repeating the problem are creating even less trust, which can spiral into a vicious cycle.
Holding a grudge and reminding your partner about their behavior regularly is also a sign that you’re not willing to forgive and move on. Your partner may begin to feel as though it’s all too hard if you’re not willing to work on more positive ways to get through a bad patch.
Communication and understanding are vital when you’re trying to mend a breach in trust. Give your partner the benefit of the doubt. If he or she is truly sorry for the behavior and seems honestly regretful about it, then there’s a chance that it was a mistake and won’t be repeated.
However, there are some occasions where it may be possible to consider if you want to remain in the relationship at all. Only you can know if you’re willing to forgive a breach of trust.
Stabilize Your Current Situation Before You Invest
Before you consider investing in any type of market, you should really take a long hard look at your current situation. Investing in the future is a good thing, but clearing up bad or potentially bad situations in the present is more important.
Pull your credit report. You should do this once each year. It is important to know what is on your report, and to clear up any negative items on your credit report as soon as possible. If youve set aside $25,000 to invest, but you have $25,000 worth of bad credit, you are better off cleaning up the credit first!
Next, look at what you are paying out each month, and get rid of expenses that are not necessary. For instance, high interest credit cards are not necessary. Pay them off and get rid of them. If you have high interest outstanding loans, pay them off as well.
If nothing else, exchange the high interest credit card for one with lower interest and refinance high interest loans with loans that are lower interest. You may have to use some of your investment funds to take care of these matters, but in the long run, you will see that this is the wisest course of action.
Get yourself into good financial shape and then enhance your financial situation with sound investments.
It doesnt make sense to start investing funds if your bank balance is always running low or if you are struggling to pay your monthly bills. Your investment dollars will be better spent to rectify adverse financial issues that affect you each day.
While you are in the process of clearing up your present financial situation, make it a point to educate yourself about the various types of investments.
This way, when you are in a financially sound situation, you will be armed with the knowledge that you need to make equally sound investments in your future.